Thursday, March 4, 2010
My One and Only
But what if your answer to this second question is, "Never." Well, that's me.
When Jon and I got married we had already had the "what kind of family do we want" talk. (I highly recommend doing this before you recite your vows, just makes for a smoother marriage.) We were surprisingly on the same page, we both only wanted one child. I am an only child. So only having one child myself, does not seem strange to me. I had a very happy childhood. Love my parents, always have, and loved growing up in our tight knit family. I have asked my mother on many an occasion why they chose to only have one child. Her response has unwaveringly been, "We wanted a blond, blue-eyed girl named Hillary; and there you were. Our family was complete." Can't really argue with that.
As to why I only want one child? Well, there are many reasons... I enjoyed it myself, so why not? I don't ever want to be pregnant again, or do that annoying thing called labor. (Moms of large families everywhere are at this point calling me selfish for sure!) I want to be able to give everything I can, emotionally, and financially to my one and only. I want to be able to do things that I feel might logistically be impossible with a large family. But above all... it just feels right. As much as many people feel passionate about their wants for a large family, I feel passionate about my wants for my small one.